Recently, I was contacted to be part of one of Australia’s leading women’s magazine features titled, “The best thing that happened to me this year!” When I was contacted, I said: “I think it was losing my job in 2017”!
Not something you would normally consider “the best”.
I’ve had to learn the hard way that sometimes “shit happens”.
I’m grateful that I’m a survivor and that I have stared death in the face – something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. But having been through such personal, professional, physical, mental and financial hardship, this experience has allowed me to be fearless and relentless in my pursuit of happiness. I’ve realised that happiness is not going to work and coming home to the family you love. It’s doing what you love everyday.
Spending each minute on something that you have chosen to do.
That doesn’t have to mean you’re working your passion every day (although, that’s lovely!) – it can mean that you are happy with the job you’re doing and take pride in what you do. Have you heard the saying, “if you’re going to be a bum, be the best damn bum you can be!”. You don’t need to be rich or high-up to be “successful”, at the end of the day that definition is what you want it to be.
Since my brain aneurysm, I really do see things in a different light. It is very common for people to change their views after surviving a near death experience.
Losing my job was well, just another challenge to overcome.
I loved my job, I loved what I did and I loved my team. When it was all taken away from me for no good reason earlier this year, I was devastated. But after a few weeks of feeling sorry for myself, I got up and thought, “I’ve survived so much worse than this” and just gave myself an imaginary slap in the face!
Since then, I have turned down multiple offers, been to too many interviews to count, including many rejections and have recently launched a business with 2 co-founders in the tech space. I’m currently earning much, much less than what I used to, but everything happens for a reason and I am looking towards the future rewards and it excites me!
I’ve heard it a million times – “I have a mortgage”, “I won’t be able to afford to live”, “I need this job even though I hate it”, “I’m so tired and I hate my boss”. My answer to this is always the same – it’s your choice.
EVERYTHING is your choice.
If you are in a job that you hate, that’s your choice – you can quit. There is a way out of most situations, you just haven’t been forced into it.
I myself have resigned from a full time role to:
1. Start my own business
2. Because I didn’t want to work there anymore.
Both outcomes were my choice and guess what, I turned out ok – everything worked out and it wasn’t that bad. Don’t get me wrong, it was hard, challenging and there were many tears involved – but it’s over now. Everything passes.
Taking risks isn’t for everyone, but I do know that life can change in an instant. I know this for a fact and I truly understand that NOTHING is promised. Please do what you love, or enjoy what you do. If you find yourself in a toxic place – GET OUT, life’s too short!